All creations are deeply personal.
All relations are intricately connected.
Every thought is a force–directing life, molding matter, and catalyzing a countless number of consequences of its own. Whatever it is we cast our attention to, we energize. Whatever we consistently energize will eventually materialize. And whatever intentions we imbue into the process, determines the style of life that is expressed, and the personality of life that lives on with a certain volition.
So there you are, facing a screen, breathing and reading the information on this page. In the ways you know how, cast your attention to the dominant palm of your hand. At first, for a few seconds. Then perhaps, for ten. And even longer. Notice the sensations of tingles that begin to tickle the palm of your hands. With time, your hand will feel as though it is glowing with life, and projecting with light … that’s right.
This is the power of our attention.
Now, continue as you have. This time, set the intention, that this attention on your palm, has a quality of curiosity. Notice what movements the energies take on your palm. Do they circulate, bubble, bounce, spiral? Whatever you notice, is what you notice. There is no wrong, there is no right.
Now, notice what movements the tissue surrounding your palm wants to take. Does a certain muscle want to twitch? Does a finger want to move? Perhaps you wiggle your thumb. Perhaps you wiggle all fingers.
Does it seem that your hand wants to wave, engaging other aspects of your physical being? Perhaps your hand now has the tendency to want to get its hand on a paintbrush or pen.
Whatever it is, just notice the personality of life that arises when we imbue a certain set of intentions to that which we are consciously casting our attention to.
This is the power of your intention.
Every thought we think, every form of attention we cast, is a seed for a particular style of creational directive. It directs life to take on a certain quality of life in movement and matter.
I’m not telling you to mind your thoughts, as if to warn you of the consequences of not minding it. Me doing that, would simply communicate a warning that presupposes that life itself is some threat to be minded. Which is not my intention nor my attention. Though it is available for you to take it as such, if that is what you would like.
What I suggest you entertain is this–whether we are aware or not, our existence is an act of creating as much as it is a product of creation. We can’t not create, because even “not creating”, has a certain quality of creation to it.
Creating is redundant.
The question then becomes, what specifically, would we love our creational authority to tend to? That is, if you had a choice to choose again–where, when and with whom would you like to cast your attention and intention to? Or in simple terms, as I commonly ask my clients in all private sessions …
What would you like?
This is the Rome of all our inquiry when it comes to exploring personal and lasting change in all aspects of our lives–relationally, professionally, commercially, physically, financially, and spiritually.
Mastering this inquiry is easier to define than to execute, of course. Especially since the operations of creature-level safety, belonging, and other non-local identification can lock away our attentions and intentions, making them unavailable for choosing otherwise. Metaphorically, this is like keeping your hands full so your hands cannot tend to something new.
So for human beings, this turns out in life as experiences with people, places, things, and activities we no longer want. Is it a romance you are struggling to establish or sustain? Is it a career you are struggling to progress? Is it consistent losses in business no matter how talented you are, or how promising your opportunities seem to be? Are you struggling to feel good about the way you look, and the body you have?
Whatever it is, these unwanted experiences seem redundant, persisting, and we often do whatever we can to no longer have them. This “no longer wanting” can come in the forms of thoughts and intentions such as:
- It’s so unfair! Why does this always happen to me?
- I’m so sick of it!
- No matter how hard I try … it always ends horribly.
- This sucks!!
- I don’t want this anymore … I just wish it would go away!
- I deserve better than this damn it!
However, as we know, what we cast our attention to, we stabilize with great creative force. So when we attend to what we don’t want, we get more of what we don’t want. Denying or resisting what we are experiencing, is no different to admiring and wanting it. Both provide sufficient attention to stabilize their existence in our current experience of life.
Whatever we run away from, we finish the run with.
The question is, what shall we do?
First of all, we must tend to what we had been attending to in our lives in a different manner. Whether that means feeling lonely, overwhelmed, depressed, anxious, heart-broken, bored … whatever it is you no longer want. To do this, we must gradually withdraw the attention and energies we have directed to sustain it.
To redivert our attention, means experiencing and seeing what we had created, as simply as possible. With no judgement, but with a deep appreciation for the ways it has provided us an experience to date. All experience is precious. Or we wouldn’t have had it.
To illustrate, let’s use a Point A (starting point) to Point B (destination) as an analogy.
The natural way of relating to Point A, is to recognize it in its entirety, and then to choose where else to go from here. That is, selecting a Point B. This is no different to saying OK to what is, asking yourself “What would I like?”, and then defining a Point B. It is about acknowledging what is.
Resisting an experience, forcing or wanting it to be different, is like standing on Point A and forcing it to be otherwise; cuss at the ground, dig at it, spit at it, chuck a tantrum … or perhaps, pretend it is not there, deny that it is, and close your senses to what is.
The natural movement in life is to respect where we are, and part ways with great gratitude to the journey to date. Only then can we proceed to re-direct our attention to what we would like.
In the same way that Point A was once Point B for some other stage of learning in life, Point B will become a Point A for another stage of choosing in life. Our reality is all about learning and choice. Both of which are coupled forces. What we complete in the way of learning, becomes choice variables. What we select in the way of choosing, becomes learning variables.
Of course, relating to our experiences in life as such, is much easier said than done. Especially if Point A involves some horrificly painful experiences. It is then very hard to recognize Point A as a point from which choosing can occur again, or that learning can be completed therein.
That is why working with a mentor or seeking and receiving support is such a precious resource for all human beings. We all in some way or another, forward the human experience of self, with other-selves, and with life itself. Being human is a concerted effort that span the spectrums of individual and collective attentions and intentions.
Human by Choice,